Derive the attention mechanism rather than describe it, well enough to read the equations in a paper without skipping them
The Mathematics of Attention

A derivation-first walk through the attention block, taking each design choice in turn and showing what breaks without it.
8 lessons, written and corrected before you arrived. Reading them here needs no account. The first reads the whole way through; the others open and then stop. Starting the course gives you your own copy, where every idea has problems standing under it and you can ask about any sentence.